
So it was that I gazed out serenely on a millpond-calm sea from the solemn remains of a church that had been almost completely destroyed in a storm centuries before, a tempest that wracked and wrecked 114 ships in one night. While seal-spotting I mourned the inert body of a pup being rocked in its last sleep on undulating waves, was shocked by the broken shape of a sheep that had plunged from a clifftop to its gravelly grave, broke my heart over a wounded bird that nestled so placidly on the shoreline during its final moments, and gasped in sympathy with a lemon shark stranded too far from the life-giving depths.
While I allowed myself to feel all this grief and pain and sadness, I found I could dive into these dips as fully as I could celebrate the swells. The partnership and the necessity of both felt so natural and obvious in this wild landscape, simply progressions through the same perfect process of change.
As so often happens, my life reflected this knowing back to me at once in a practical way. Making our way North along the coast for our last couple of days, the gearbox on our van jammed as we sat watching seals in a tiny, secluded bay. The AA couldn’t free it up again, and so we had to be low-loaded back home.

So no matter how bleak, inconvenient or tragic an event or happening may seem at the time, I know to view it through a wider lens that can encompass the full picture, the edges of which my eyesight cannot even reach. A loss must always eventually flow into a gain, before ebbing again into loss and then turning back over and over upon itself like the tide. The waning and then dark moon under which we had begun our journey had only the night before sliced its crescent presence into the dark sky. At this time of visible crisis and chaos in the world, I found comfort and strength in embracing the fullness of the life/death/life cycle in such a palpable way.
Semele Xerri
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