An abundance of small things

Posted on Sep 1, 2014 in Spiritual living

small space livingSince The Secret hit bookshelves and then screens, many have believed that you’re only abundant if you have attracted to yourself everything you’ve ever wanted in terms of success, money and “things” – in other words abundance is a financial issue. I know that isn’t all the book and DVD are saying, and the basic message is positive if you back it up with some good old action-taking, but people seem to have adopted it in that fashion. Perhaps that says more about the society we live in. It wasn’t an increase in finances that changed my mind about being abundant (although I confess that our joint income is considerably more than it was in our early days as a couple), rather it was a determination to simply make the most of the resources I had available to me. Having enough, which is actually all you need anyway, became my new abundance.

When my youngest son left home, my partner George and I decided it was time to move to somewhere to be our home. He had moved into the house I owned and lived in with my two sons when we first got together, and I was paying interest only on the fairly short-term mortgage for that property. Thankfully, I’d been in a position to pay a considerable deposit on my Welsh home from the sale of the previous one in Manchester, but after taking voluntary redundancy to set up my business Triple Moon I had to change my payments to interest only.

We began saving up with a new joint mortgage in mind, and dutifully went along for a chat with my mortgage provider to see what the situation was. We were told our documented earnings were not enough to be granted a mortgage, and the fact that we were both self-employed didn’t help matters. We also had to factor in that we only had about 6 years to run on the current mortgage.

It was then, when faced with no alternative, that we decided not to accept this declaration from the bank that we “didn’t earn enough” (there’s a potential entry point to the spiral of lack mentality if I ever heard one) as the truth. Instead, we began to research exactly what we did earn enough for. It was surprisingly encouraging. The immediate answer was a motor home in which we could travel around for a couple of years, living comfortably while indulging our desire for some adventure. This gave us time to decide exactly where we wanted to be in the world, and reassess our finances to see about a mortgage after 24 more months. If you like the sound of this adventure then do browse through my other blog posts as I’ve already written a fair bit about that so I won’t go into the details here.

The conclusion that we’ve already reached as we’ve delved deeper into our journey is that we now definitely don’t want another mortgage. I wish to be completely debt free, and the mortgage is the only money I owe to anyone currently. We’ve also accepted the fact that we may not save enough to be able to cash buy a house in the kind of rural setting we need to be happy. That last sentence made two very important points: we haven’t closed off to the possibility that we may acquire that money, because that would be limiting, and we absolutely know what we need to be able to live happily. So we’ve settled on the idea of finding a small piece of land without planning permission to rent or buy, placing a temporary structure on it in which we can live for several months of the year, and continuing to travel in our motorhome for the rest of the time. Once we’ve sold my house, and with some savings we’re currently managing to build slowly, we can buy land and structure outright, and carry out any solar energy, water acquiring, and drainage work necessary to live comfortably (no one says simple living has to be uncomfortable). A small space is perfectly adequate for us, we’ve discovered, and we like to feel close to the earth.

Once you start to open up to the idea of small space living, called the tiny house movement in the USA, you uncover so many possibilities – an abundance of them in fact (sorry, couldn’t resist it). Yurts, pods, converted vans and buses, barges and boats, teepees……our current favourite is a shepherd’s hut; a well constructed one with wood-burning stove, kitchen area, and shower/toilet built in. Neither of us are practical, building-type people so we’re happy to pay what we can to others who have that skill in abundance (and there’s that word again!). I can thoroughly recommend the Tiny House Blog if you want to see what’s out there now, and what’s on its way as more and more people latch on to just what a fabulous idea it is to live smaller. The Minimalist Guys also have some very interesting points to make about a lot of “stuff” in our lives.

So try working it backwards, and get as wildly creative about it as you possibly can. Instead of focusing on what you lack when it comes to having the usual (a mortgaged property or a high monthly rental home), choose to look closely at what you’ve got. When you truly acknowledge the resources you have available to you (money in any amount, new ideas, skills, produce, really talented and helpful friends) and maximise what you do with them, then you’ll immediately feel blessed. As I  mentioned earlier, it’s vital to know what kind of life you’d be happy living, and I know our choice isn’t everyone’s cup of tea or practical for where you are in your life. But I do think the underlying principle holds up for everyone. Sometimes abundance isn’t about changing what or how much you have, it’s changing what you do with (and how you feel about) what you’ve already got.

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Semele Xerri

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