Standing in your power

Posted on Mar 20, 2014 in Spiritual living

Brighid's powerMy spiritual journey has taken me into many disciplines and paths, but essentially I believe the underlying message in all of them is the same, and very simple. We and every other living thing in the universe are part of each other and God/Goddess, and to fully embrace this understanding we must embody three qualities in particular – love, wisdom and power. For women, this is illustrated beautifully in the image of the three-aspected goddesses that are present in all world cultures. I resonate particularly with Brighid, the Celtic goddess who is inspiring light-bringer, healer and mistress of the fiery forge.

I know that I, like many other women, struggle most with the third of these qualities; power. For a start, our understanding of power tends to be the one that has been presented to us over many centuries of masculine dominance. If I asked you to imagine a powerful person you would probably think of someone who has control over others or ownership of massive material resources, such as a president or prime minister, a ruler, or the CEO of a large company (and let’s face it, how often have we seen a woman occupy one of those positions?).

The English dictionary defines “power” in the ways I’ve mentioned above as authority and control over others, but also this; “ability to do or act; capability of doing or accomplishing something.” As a woman, that’s a power I understand and want to claim. As women we must step into this power otherwise all the love and wisdom we possess will not manifest effectively and we’ll have no impact on anyone or anything.

It’s so easy to give our power away, even in little ways that seem unimportant. Like not expressing your preferences when asked. How many times when asked what you want to do have you said “I don’t mind, you decide.” That’s giving away your power, and I’ve definitely been guilty of that one. Do you put up with things and people that you really don’t like, or stop yourself from doing something you’d love to do because you’re afraid of rocking the boat? That’s giving away your power. Do you ever question something and ask if it’s right for you, or do you just go along with it because someone in authority has said you have to, or because everyone else around you is. That’s giving away your power.

Recently, speaking with a dear friend, I realised that I wasn’t standing in my power by allowing George to do all the driving of the motor home because I’m scared of having to maneuver such a large vehicle! It was just easier to allow him to carry on doing it. It can creep up on you! In my experience, it’s these many tiny ways in which we allow our personal power to be leeched away that mount up to create one enormous deficit. And then we wonder why we’re feeling tired and drained…..

So, how do we tap into our power and make it available for use? There are many ways to do this, but here are the ones I’ve found most effective:

Being aware: Watching out for all the little ways you hand your power to others every day. When you’re aware, you can make empowering choices.

Connecting to your womb space: This is your power centre (I say womb space because it’s in this area of the body, whether you have a physical womb or not, so men can use this exercise too). Just sit or lie with your hands on your womb and place your attention there. As you breathe in, imagine you’re drawing energy up from the earth and down from the heavens into this space. Allow it to build with every breath. I sometimes see the womb space as a cauldron or large grail cup, filling with power as I breathe. Once you feel you’re fully charged, you can drop any intentions or dreams, difficult situations or problems into the cauldron knowing they will be imbued with this power of transformation and manifestation. During the day, if feeling unsure or nervous, simply drop your attention down into the womb space and your reservoir of power, breathing more energy into it as you feel necessary.

Keeping your womb space energetically clear: Just ask your higher self to show you what and who you are carrying around in your womb space, or if there are any attachments to this source of power within you. You’ll be amazed at just what you can see. If you feel anything or anyone shouldn’t be there (for example, ex partners), simply move them out with your intention and imagination.

Fully accepting your shadow and your sexuality: Work through anything that is preventing you from doing this. For many women, these two are closely entwined because they have been brought up to believe that if you’re sexual then you’re “bad”. You might also want to research the legend of Lilith, the rebellious first wife of Adam. There’s an Eve and a Lilith in all women and we must acknowledge both equally.

Here are some other posts which can help you explore further:

Reclaiming the sacred feminine

Me and my shadow

The Soul Journey through the Thoth Tarot Cards: The Moon

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Semele Xerri

© Semele Xerri is a psychic intuitive healer, animal communicator, and Reiki Master Teacher. To find out more about her and her services, go to her Work with me page.

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